Lo que no dije

 Por:  Ada M. Álvarez Conde

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What I didn't say



IF YOU THINK YOU OR A FRIEND ARE IN A VIOLENT RELATIONSHIP PLEASE FILL IN THIS QUESTIONNAIRE BY CLIKING HERE


The author and the project:

In 2006 on May 10 the novel Lo que no dije was published in Puerto Rico at 19 by me, Ada Alvarez. Thsi made me Puerto Rico's youngest novelist. I wrote this book inspired in an article I had to write on dating violence, on a personal experience and on interviews made to women that lived in a Women's Shelter. Right now, I'm 21 and a graduate from the University of Puerto Rico with a BA in Information and Journalism and a Minor in Gender Studies.

This novel was the first step to big project that I wanted to accomplish, I wanted people to be informed on the topic. Waiting for the publication of the book, this website was created. Now it has been expanded but it has been big for three years. I have given more than 50 conference around Puerto Rico, where I live, in United States (where I have worked) and Dominican Republic, where I've been invited. Right now I'm working on the publication of more books, but none of them have changed my life as this one. It has been a blessing and also a lot of hard work. Most of the time I do this alone, but some people have reached me to get help and to give conferences, and that has been really important for this project. This is global. You can see here how many people visit these page and from where.

I have also helped more than 100 women get help by the internet and the Facebook group. Lo que no dije was invited to the X International Book Fest in Dominican Republic and has been invited again to the XI one, to expose the book, but mostly to do a media tour based on prevention of domestic violence to communities and goverment agencies. Yes, and I'm 21 years old. The project also gave me the prize of Volunteer of the Year on 2007 which was recognized by the House of Representatives of Puerto Rico- The Sor Isolina Excelence in Service Award. Former work in the United States includes the Department of Veterans Affairs and the Hispanic Press Office of Nancy Pelosi in 2006 Fall.  PLEASE SUPPORT THIS WEBSITE AND SPREAD THE WORD, THE BOOK WILL COME IN ENGLISH ON IT'S BILINGUAL VERSION IN FALL. RIGHT NOW I'M LOOKING FOR SOME FUNDS TO HELP AND PEOPLE INTERNATIONALLY THAT WANT TO BE PART OF THIS PROJECT.  This book will go to schools, colleges, and everybody that needs it. PLEASE DO NOT BECOME A VICTIM OF SILENCE.


Please, feel free to print, copy and foward the Questionnaire to see if you or anyone is on a dating violence relationship that appears above.


What's happening-
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Prevalence of Domestic Violence:

Resources of these facts can be found here

Estimates range from 960,000 incidents of violence against a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend per year  to three million women who are physically abused by their husband or boyfriend per year.

Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime.

Nearly one-third of American women (31 percent) report being physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives, according to a 1998 Commonwealth Fund survey.

Nearly 25 percent of American women report being raped and/or physically assaulted by a current or former spouse, cohabiting partner, or date at some time in their lifetime, according to the National Violence Against Women Survey, conducted from November 1995 to May 1996.

Thirty percent of Americans say they know a woman who has been physically abused by her husband or boyfriend in the past year.

In the year 2001, more than half a million American women (588,490 women) were victims of nonfatal violence committed by an intimate partner.

Intimate partner violence is primarily a crime against women. In 2001, women accounted for 85 percent of the victims of intimate partner violence (588,490 total) and men accounted for approximately 15 percent of the victims (103,220 total).

While women are less likely than men to be victims of violent crimes overall, women are five to eight times more likely than men to be victimized by an intimate partner.

In 2001, intimate partner violence made up 20 percent of violent crime against women. The same year, intimate partners committed three percent of all violent crime against men.

Women of all races are about equally vulnerable to violence by an intimate.

Male violence against women does much more damage than female violence against men; women are much more likely to be injured than men.

The most rapid growth in domestic relations caseloads is occurring in domestic violence filings. Between 1993 and 1995, 18 of 32 states with three year filing figures reported an increase of 20 percent or more.

Women are seven to 14 times more likely than men to report suffering severe physical assaults from an intimate partner.

The Facts on Domestic Violence

The health-related costs of rape, physical assault, stalking, and homicide by intimate partners exceed five point eight billion dollars each year (CDC study).

Domestic Homicides:

On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. In 2000, 1,247 women were killed by an intimate partner. The same year, 440 men were killed by an intimate partner.

Women are much more likely than men to be killed by an intimate partner. In 2000, intimate partner homicides accounted for 33.5 percent of the murders of women and less than four percent of the murders of men.

Health Issues:

About half of all female victims of intimate violence report an injury of some type, and about 20 percent of them seek medical assistance.

Thirty-seven percent of women who sought treatment in emergency rooms for violence-related injuries in 1994 were injured by a current or former spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend.

Domestic Violence and Youth:

Approximately one in five female high school students reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.

Eight percent of high school age girls said "yes" when asked if "a boyfriend or date has ever forced sex against your will."

Forty percent of girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.

During the 1996-1997 school year, there were an estimated 4,000 incidents of rape or other types of sexual assault in public schools across the country.22

Domestic Violence and Children:

In a national survey of more than 6,000 American families, 50 percent of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children.

Slightly more than half of female victims of intimate violence live in households with children under age twelve.

Studies suggest that between three point three and ten million children witness some form of domestic violence annually.

Rape:

Three in four women (76 percent) who reported they had been raped and/or physically assaulted since age 18 said that a current or former husband, cohabiting partner, or date committed the assault.

One in five (21 percent) women reported she had been raped or physically or sexually assaulted in her lifetime.

Nearly one-fifth of women (18 percent) reported experiencing a completed or attempted rape at some time in their lives; one in 33 men (three percent) reported experiencing a completed or attempted rape at some time in their lives.

In 2000, 48 percent of the rapes/sexual assaults committed against people age twelve and over were reported to the police.

In 2001, 41,740 women were victims of rape/sexual assault committed by an intimate partner.

Rapes/sexual assaults committed by strangers are more likely to be reported to the police than rapes/sexual assaults committed by "non-strangers," including intimate partners, other relatives and friends or acquaintances. Between 1992 and 2000, 41 percent of the rapes/sexual assaults committed by strangers were reported to the police. During the same time period, 24 percent of the rapes/sexual assaults committed by an intimate were reported.

 

 

Stalking:

 

Seventy-eight percent of stalking victims are women. Women are significantly more likely than men (60 percent and 30 percent, respectively) to be stalked by intimate partners.

Eighty percent of women who are stalked by former husbands are physically assaulted by that partner and 30 percent are sexually assaulted by that partner.

Prevalence and frecuency of Dating violence

Teen dating violence runs across race, gender, and socioeconomic lines. Both males and females are victims, but boys and girls are abusive in different ways:

• Girls are more likely to yell, threaten to hurt themselves, pinch, slap, scratch, or kick;
• Boys injure girls more severely and frequently;
• Some teen victims experience violence occasionally;
• Others are abused more often…sometimes daily.
“Teen Victim Project,” National Center for Victims of Crime, http://www.ncvc.

More interesting facts here

 

 

 

 



TEEN DATING FACTS AND CAMPAIGNS

See it and stop it, is a very complete campaign project that has a lot of information and is a great national advocate against dating violence. We sponsor this campaig. You can see there work in their website: www.seeitandstopit.org

For more news in English visit the English section in our blog:

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IN OTHER NEWS: Lo que no dije is competing for the Brick awards, given for community projects from the non-profit Do something. To see us and our cause visit our project: Dating violence prevention and the community.



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